“Men are flattered when women chase them.”
“If you’re interested in him, why not ask him out?”
“Guys respect women who take initiative.”
And chances are — you’ve wanted to believe them.
But I’d like to confirm what you probably already suspect…
If you want to win a man’s heart, you should never, ever chase him.
Chasing after a man is the quickest way to make a once-interested man become lazy. It’s also the quickest way to send him packing.
You may think by making it easy for him, you’ll be able to win him over quickly and permanently.
But truth is, men don’t want “easy”…they want a passionate challenge!
Why Do Men Chase Women?
Simply put, men chase women because they LOVE the chase.
Nothing electrifies his feelings quite the way the chase does. Men truly love a challenge.
Pursuit allows a man to feel like a man.
A man needs to pursue a woman to feel whole and fulfilled in that part of himself which gets very little exercise in today’s world — his masculinity.
When a man pursues a woman, he spends his time wondering if she’s interested, and thinking about how to please her. In other words…he’s falling in love.
You’ve probably heard the story of a man who leaves a loving girlfriend to go after the dreadful woman who makes his life miserable with her terrible ways.
You might marvel how these men remain intoxicated with such difficult women. You wonder why they seem to go through the tortures of the damned just to stay with her.
This is an extreme example of how men love intensity.
They love being caught up in the moment; they’re fascinated by an unpredictable woman.
How to Use This to Your Advantage
Make yourself a little hard to get and you’ll activate his natural drives to pursue you. (In fact, he’ll hardly be able to help it!)
As proof, take a look at the men in your life, past and present. Which men were the most interested in you?
In most cases, you’ll find that the men who were most interested were the ones who had to pursue YOU in order to get your attention.
You also create a much stronger foundation for a secure and lasting relationship.
I know that holding back can go against some of your natural instincts…
This gets easier with practice, however, because the rewards of being hard to get help you to value yourself so much that you delight in male pursuit.
Remember, even a minor difference in being “hard to get” can make a major difference in your relationship.
If you want to learn how to create a deep connection and lasting desire in your relationship, take a moment to listen to my audio presentation.
It’s filled with valuable information about creating a lasting desire and how to maintain your mystery with him.
It’s not about manipulating his actions…it’s about helping you understand the secrets of men’s nature!
About the Author:
Mimi Tanner is a dating and relationship expert and the author of Hard to Get — The Timeless Art of Conquering His Heart and numerous other books and programs on how to get and keep the man you want.
Mimi has helped countless women create loving, lasting relationships with the man of their dreams.
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