There’s a certainty about this relationship.
You know you have his heart!
But so far, no one has said, “I love you.” You’re dying to say it, but you’re hesitating about one thing:
Should you say “I love you” first? Or is it better to wait for him to say it first? Or does this even matter?
What I’m about to tell you may go against your “instincts,” but it can save you months of heartache:
Let him be the one to say “I love you” first.
The first time you say “I love you” is a major milestone in any romantic relationship. It’s a time for rejoicing.
Your guy takes those words seriously, too. That’s where this happy occasion can fall apart.
While you’re grappling with how and when to say “I love you” for the first time…
You may not realize that your guy is NOT READY to hear those three not-so-little words!
If he’s not quite ready for this moment, he’ll feel pressured when you say those words first — even if he is falling in love with you!
Yes, even if he IS in that delicious “falling in love” process, you saying “I love you” first can be like a huge “wake up call” for him.
He may suddenly realize that things are getting VERY serious — which can trigger him to back away.
So let him lead the way on this important milestone in your relationship.
Why You Should Wait
Until HE says these words to you, he can’t be sure he’s ready for this huge step forward in your relationship.
Your patience will pay off in many ways. Waiting to say “I love you” gives you more power, not less. It shows him that you don’t say those three words to just anyone.
- It builds the romantic tension
- It takes the pressure off your guy.
- When he says “I love you” first, he’s pursuing you — not the other way around.
When you take your mind off the question of saying “I love you” for the first time, you can relax more. You can focus on having fun together without zeroing in on “the relationship.”
This in turn will make your relationship stronger — because now your man is free to fall more deeply in love with you.
When you do this, you’re much more likely to hear him say — from the core of his being — “I love you.”
But what if it’s too late?
What if you’ve already blown the “I love you” moment?
Or accidentally made any of the countless other mistakes women make with the man they love?
It’s not too late! If you have ever wished you could undo the past…you’re not alone. And, with the right guidance you can definitely…
About the Author:
Mimi Tanner is a dating and relationship expert and the author of The Man Mistake Eraser and numerous other books and programs on how to get and keep the man you want.
Mimi has helped countless women create loving, lasting relationships with the man of their dreams.
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