A woman’s brain is the thing that matters most.
It’s much less common to find a person who knows the same thing is true about a man!
Yes, men can be interested in sex even when there is emotional tension in the relationship, but I’m talking about the aspects of the relationship that men have to work harder at.
I’m talking about the non-sex parts that make up 95% of the joy and meaning both partners feel in a truly committed relationship.
Believe it or not, relationship issues and emotions do affect levels of passion for men.
This means that if you want him to be really engaged in the relationship, if you want him to respond to your attempts to reach deeper emotional intimacy…
You’ve got to pay attention to his emotions.
Men and Their Emotions
But which emotions matter most to a man?
It’s obviously not the same stuff that matters the most to a woman, otherwise it wouldn’t be so much work to get a man to respond in the ways that seem natural and meaningful to women!
It’s not what you would expect, and you might doubt the importance of it when I tell you.
Remember that men experience relationships differently. As a result, the issue that matters most to men may strike you as petty or small.
In a relationship, the most important thing that will affect a man’s ability to perform is the level of respect he feels within the attitudes, actions, and words of the woman he is interacting with.
When I say, “perform,” I am referring to emotional openness, willingness to work through problems, true investment in the relationship…
And the desire to make you happy above all else.
In my early twenties, there were two women who both expressed an interest in me. Both of them were very attractive. Both of these women were very attractive to me. That’s where the comparison broke down though.
The way they treated me was very different. They both attempted to use compliments to spark conversations and show their interest, but they did so in very different ways.
The first woman (we’ll call her Janet) was sitting at a table with me and eight other acquaintances when she made her approach.
This may seem a bit ridiculous, but remember we were in our early 20s and still basically just kids.
She was giggling a lot (she almost always did) and talking in hushed tones for a few seconds with her close girlfriend sitting beside her…
Before she turned to me and said, “I bet you would look really good with your shirt off.”
She had a silly grin on her face and no shame for her boldness.
The other woman (we’ll call her Nicole) approached me one day as we both exited a building and headed down a sidewalk after a social event.
She walked beside me for a moment, making small talk before changing her tone of voice slightly to a more serious tone.
She said, “I was really impressed with what you said to Bill and Sarah last week.”
She turned her head and looked me in the eye at this point, and continued, “Your wisdom’s going to take you a long way in this world, you know.”
Can you guess which one of these women got my attention? Was it Janet or Nicole?
Why Respect Matters…
The truth is, they both got my attention but only one caused me to feel deeply respected.
At the moment I experienced true respect from Nicole, I could suddenly see visions of myself in a long-term relationship with her.
Experiencing the weight of her respect caused me to want to welcome her into my life and promise my heart to her and serve her with my life and devotion.
Janet got my attention too, but I felt like she saw me as some kind of plaything.
I believe she had a genuine desire to pay a compliment, but I did not feel respected. I felt she was not respecting “me,” the deeper me, the real me.
True respect is demonstrated, not just spoken with words.
Respect matters to men in ways women just can’t see (without a little training in male psychology!), but if you show him respect you’ll draw him to you… Every time!
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