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Unfortunately, few people ever get to experience the kind of relationship that offers long-term trust, love and support…
The kind of relationship that makes your journey through life worthwhile.
Fortunately, it’s not all bad news…
Even though divorce statistics are alarming and it seems everyone is breaking up or stuck in an unhappy partnership, there’s a simple way you can buck the trend or turn things around.
We discovered the secret to lasting love quite by chance, while we were on the road to creating the relationship of our dreams.
This is really hopeful and helpful information and we’re sure this one secret will help you design the kind of relationship you want and deserve.
There’s an old Chinese saying that goes: “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
It’s exactly the same with relationships. You can’t get from a so-so relationship or a relationship that’s in trouble to a fantastic, trouble-free union overnight.
But you CAN get from where you are — no matter how bad you may believe things are between you and your loved one — to where you want to be, just by making small but significant changes.
It’s about making the right choices every day.
You’re never going to go to sleep in a bad relationship and wake up the next day in a relationship that’s based on mutual respect, honest connection and everlasting love.
It just doesn’t work that way!
That’s the only way to “wake up” in a new kind of relationship.
These choices may seem insignificant at the time, but they’re the building blocks you need to gradually construct a loving, warm, trusting relationship.
For instance, let’s just say your spouse or significant other forgot to pick up the laundry…again! You have harsh words ready on the tip of your tongue…
But then you catch yourself just as you’re about to say them out loud. You stop, take a deep breath and shift to a calmer place in your mind.
When you finally speak to your loved one, you ask for what you need in a positive, supportive way instead.
Or it could be that you often find yourself hiding your true feelings and then you say to yourself, “This time, I’m going to share what I really feel.”
These are small choices but they are vital for the health of your relationship.
When you keep making these tiny, positive decisions, day in and day out, you can transform your entire relationship. It’s these little transformations that eventually tip over the whole relationship into a better, brighter, more positive space.
To put it simply, make one little change a day, one choice at a time.
That way you can create a conscious relationship where you have a beautiful, ongoing flow of lasting love all the time.
Every time you make a positive change or decision in your relationship, you’re essentially reinforcing your “commitment muscles.”
This means it will become easier and easier to continue to make choices that will benefit both you and your partner and uplift the relationship as a whole.
Think of every argument, disagreement or uncomfortable situation as an opportunity to make the right choice…the choice that will create a loving, lasting relationship that will bring you both joy and love for the rest of your lives.
It’s not hard when you do it step by step, one day at a time.
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About the Authors:
Widely known as the therapists’ therapists, their best-selling book is used as a textbook in many graduate programs throughout the country. They consider themselves their own best customers in the creation of conscious relationships and are among the few relationship experts who work and present publicly together.
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