Yeah, kind of hard to imagine, isn’t it?!
But here’s the truth: men lie to the women they love and they do it often.
In fact, when it comes to being completely honest, men – even the good ones – seem almost allergic to the truth.
The Truth Behind the Lies
Here’s some insider information for you: there are 3 main reasons why he lies. Understanding each one will give you the power to build a loving and happy relationship that you can rely on.
You’ll finally have a relationship based on trust and integrity instead of dishonesty and suspicion.
Ready to hear the truth? Here it goes…
Why He Lies: Reason #1
Have you ever asked him, “Do I look fat in this?”
These sorts of questions have convinced men that there are too many potential traps in responding honestly.
Rather than navigate them, it’s easier to simply tell you what they think you want to hear. Sorry – you may not want to hear that, but it’s the truth!
Sometimes men lie to women because they think if they tell you the truth, you simply won’t like them as much.
If you ask, “What are you thinking about?” you’re likely to get a very fast response like this one: “Uh…nothing.”
Why He Lies: Reason #3
This one’s a biggie…
The third reason men lie is the one that shocks women the most: it’s because men are terrified of women and their emotions!
According to Dr. John Gottman of the University of Washington, women can both enter and recover from extreme emotional states a lot faster and easier than guys can.
If you think about it, it makes sense.
We’ve all seen a woman burst into tears one moment, only to be totally fine a minute or two later. But when it comes to emotions, guys are a lot more fragile. Gottman says this is because of evolution.
Guys were evolved to be single-taskers. They are designed to push everything out of their minds except the one thing that’s right in front of them.
In ancient times, men were the hunters and they absolutely had to concentrate on what they were doing. Any kind of distraction or loss of focus might mean their families wouldn’t get to eat or even worse – they’d end up as a wild animal’s dinner!
Because of these ancient traits, men are slow to get into an emotional state and are even slower at getting out of it!
Getting emotional for women is a lot like jumping off a dock into a lake. You get wet, sure, but the dock is right there and just a few seconds later you’re safe and dry.
But for guys, getting emotional is like getting dropped into the middle of the ocean and just barely treading water while being surrounded by sharks…
With no land in sight!
But what does this have to do with lying?
From a very young age, guys learn that if they tell you the truth, you might freak out on them and flood them with scary emotions. They’ll feel like they’re being pushed out into a shark-infested ocean.
So What’s a Gal to Do?
OK, so if guys are scared of your emotions…how do you get him to open up and share his feelings?
Well, it might not come to you naturally, but you’re going to have to learn how to talk like a native and do what guys do.
For instance, you might notice that men never, ever say something like “let’s talk” when they’re among friends.
In fact, if a guy ever said something like that he’d get ragged on big time!
Instead, when a man wants to talk about something that’s bugging him, he asks someone to get together to do something specific.
For instance: “Hey man, you wanna grab a beer?”
Or “Let’s go for a drive.”
“You wanna play pool?”
So if you want to talk to a guy about his feelings (or your feelings for that matter) the best way to do it is to ‘misdirect’ him by giving him something else to focus on…
And then subtly and calmly bring up the actual topic you want to talk about.
It may sound a little like you’re playing some kind of game or “Love Judo,” but I guarantee it works!
There are many more easy, effective ways to get your man to open up so the two of you can start building a loving, honest relationship that lasts.
You might find these insights a little unusual or even controversial…but they work and you’ll finally understand exactly what makes him tick.
No more fights and arguments and most importantly – no more lies!
If you would like to know the full scoop on men, and why they lie, check out the amazing eBook Why Men Lie: Relationship Advice for Women About How Men Think.
This exclusive and super-affordable eBook is the result of a very special interview that I had with the It’s All About Women team, and they’ve been kind enough to publish it.
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About the Author:
He has appeared on the Rachael Ray Show where he wowed Rachael and her audience with his incredibly simple but powerful intimacy building techniques.
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