That if it doesn’t happen magically and by accident that it’s somehow fake or inauthentic?
Nothing could be further from the truth!
There are infinite ways to receive love. When you can bust the limiting myths to love, you’ll be able to take purposeful action to find the love of your life.
Myth #1: Love will happen by accident
Love doesn’t happen by accident. The truth is, each of us “creates” love…
We all first learned to receive love from our family…
Maybe your mother was sick and you had to take care of her, and now you’re resentful that you give too much in relationships.
Maybe your parents told you that your feelings didn’t matter, and now you struggle with expressing yourself and asking for what you need.
Making the effort to recognize the pattern and learning effective communication tools will transform your relationships.
That way, you will no longer be stuck in a repeating pattern, and you’ll be able to actively “create” a healthy, love relationship.
Myth #2: Love shows up when you least expect it
So, should we stop looking for love in order to find it?
Well, think about it. What if we applied this advice to other goals we have in our lives and the world?
Your ideal job will show up when you least expect it. You’ll lose 20 pounds when you least expect it. The dishwasher will repair itself when you least expect it…
Our marital problems will resolve themselves when we least expect it. World peace will arrive when we least expect it.
This philosophy begins to seem a little ridiculous, doesn’t it?
And yet, we’re all sold this ridiculous myth from a very young age that one day we’ll bump into the love of our life and magically we’ll know how to make it last…
How’s that working for you?
Like anything we desire in our lives, love requires intentional action.
We can’t expect it to happen by reading more articles on the internet. We can’t expect it to happen by sitting at home and visualizing our ideal mate and then turning on the TV and vegging out for the night.
And we certainly can’t expect love to happen when we least expect it.
How to Bust the Love Myths
In order to get different results in love, you have to let go of the old ways that are not serving you. Taking purposeful action will get you out of the rut and moving towards the love you desire.
Here’s how you can get started:
- Take an inventory of each of your past relationships. How long did each last? Who initiated the break-up? Rate your attraction/attachment on a scale of 1-10. Look for repeating patterns.
- Clear out your attachments to anyone in the past. Release them. Forgive them. Heal your heart. Move on. Holding onto the past will keep you stuck in the past.
- Make a list of your ideal partner’s qualities. Focus on who they and what their values are. Be honest. Do you have these qualities? (We only attract what we ourselves possess).
- Visualize yourself with your soulmate. What does it feel like to be together? Imagine and believe that you already have what you desire.
- Do something different. Take a class, go to a new restaurant, try a new online dating site, or go on an adventure. To get something you’ve never had, you have to do something you’ve never done.
These are just a few tools for you to begin thinking differently about how you create love.
When you work on yourself to become whole and complete, you will attract someone else who is whole and complete.
You will create a 360-degree relationship, which is a full circle of you being complete where you don’t need to look for a partner who completes you.
Only when you’re in this place, can you choose to create love with anyone you want.
And that’s the real key here. You get to choose who your “One” is.
So rather than feeling powerless to create love, access the part of you that knows you create your own reality, and stand in your power to bring in your beloved.
If you’d like more support with creating love on purpose, please check out our Soulmate Blueprint for tools to release and heal your past, become whole and complete, and create the love you most desire and deserve.
About the Authors:
Orna and Matthew Walters are master relationship coaches for singles and couples and are dedicated to spreading the message that having love is an inside job and that it’s never too late to find the love of your life.
They each struggled with love relationships for the majority of their adult lives and individually mastered self-love allowing them to come together to form a true soul partnership. Orna and Matthew work with clients all over the globe utilizing the tools of transformation.
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