Divorce rates are high and there are more broken relationships and families than I’d care to imagine.
In fact, I grew up around unhappy relationships myself.
My grandparents, parents and siblings have all been divorced at one time or another (sometimes more than once).
I made a decision a long time ago that divorce wouldn’t be part of my story…
I’m glad to say that I’ve been happily married to my wife Athena for 2 decades and we’ve never even had a fight during that time!
Sounds hard to believe, right? But it’s the truth and to be honest, anyone can learn to have a wonderfully happy relationship with their partner.
As a relationship expert, I’ve studied the connection and communication habits of men and women for a long time.
Based on this research, as well as on my own experience, I’ve put together a quick and easy tip list that will help you build a blissful intimate bond with the one you love:
Tip #1 Make Time For Your Relationship
Because they don’t have enough hours in the day.
I have the same amount of time given to me each day as everyone else does. It’s how I prioritize the time that might be different.
Besides my relationship with my Creator, my time spent with Athena is most important to me.
More important than my job. More important than the money I make. More important than exercise. More important than my friends or other family members. And yes, even more important than Ashton, my darling little son.
I am not against buying luxury items and high living for those who can afford them and don’t have to work insane hours to attain them…
But I am slightly perplexed by those who work too many hours or have a long daily commute just so they can have “things,” not realizing they are losing something that is even more valuable and precious – time with loved ones.
Bottom line – it’s your choice to make time for the most important person in your life.
I’ve got a secret and I’m not sharing.
Actually, I’ve got a lot of secrets. There are a lot of things that are only known to Athena and me. That keeps us close.
I like it when Athena shares things with me that she doesn’t share with others. It makes me feel special and unique in her eyes. I tell her things that I don’t tell my friends or family.
It’s not like these are horrible things we have done that we can’t tell others. I just want Athena to feel like she knows me better than anyone else.
Make your sweetheart feel special. Always share important things with them first. Let some things remain a secret between the two of you for a little while before letting the rest of the world know all about your personal life.
Without special time together, relationships can pull apart or simply become stale.
But you can’t simply replace doing nothing with doing the exact same thing week after week.
The oh-so-predictable dinner and a movie can be alright if mixed up with some other types of dates.
Here are a few suggestions: bookstore, library, museum, zoo or park date…or together collect clothes for a shelter. Be creative! (And make the time!)
If you find that sex is becoming very sporadic in your relationship (and you’re not happy with that) consider scheduling “sex nights.”
Just like date nights, schedule one or two days each week for physical intimacy.
Some people find the idea of planned sex off-putting at first, but later come to anticipate the weekly ritual.
Having sex planned in advance makes for prolonged foreplay!
Tip #5 Get Your Debt Under Control
Otherwise, your debt will control you and affect you physically and psychologically.
When you get a paycheck, the first thing you should do is sit down with your partner and discuss all aspects of your family budget.
Only when you analyze your spending habits will you fully realize where you are wasting money. It’s a great opportunity to talk about your goals and dreams. Realize that frivolously spending money can be a sign of disrespect for your marriage and mate.
If you would like a bigger diamond ring or a fancier car, ask yourself why. Take a quick inventory of all the items you own but could really live without. Consider how much you paid for them.
What if you didn’t buy those items and had all that money in savings instead? Would it make a difference in how you view your job, your family and your future?
Having a wonderfully loving and fulfilling relationship is a lot easier than you think and it can be (and if you put in the effort WILL be) the foundation for a lifetime of happiness and success.
Learn more tips and techniques on how to create a joyful, intimate relationship that lasts!
Oprah’s Love Expert, Michael Webb, is the author of 50 Secrets of Blissful Relationships, an e-book that’s packed with powerful information on how to build the love, passion and intimacy with the one you love.
Media around the world have referred to Michael as “The World’s Most Romantic Man,” “America’s Romance Expert,” “Mr. Romance,” and “The Martha Stewart of Romance.”
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