Can you please tell me honestly which it is, please?!”
Here’s my answer to the above question…Men don’t LIKE to be chased…
Men LOVE to be chased!
I mean, c’mon, who doesn’t, right? We all like to be desired. We all like to know someone else out there thinks we’re the cat’s pajamas.
And, sometimes it works out. She pursues him, gets his number and they live happily ever after.
But here’s the problem…
Beware of the Backlash
In other words, the “high” he gets from you asking him out will only last until his internal romance meter realizes that he is now in the “feminine” position (aka: being the “chasee”).
This kills the attraction almost instantly.
Any anticipation in the relationship he might have had is deflated. And without anticipation, there’s nothing to fuel his interest for you.
He can’t “win” you over anymore, and this is an important ingredient in his process of falling in love.
Does this mean you have to be passive? No, quite the contrary…
There’s a magic formula for pursuing him, without him even knowing. This is super- feminine-ninja-style…strong, powerful and ever-pulling!
Here’s the 4-Step process how you can pursue him and stay in the feminine energy…
Every guy has been traumatized by being brutally rejected by a woman. Therefore, men can be a bit hesitant to approach women.
Make eye contact for a good three seconds and give him that sexy smile you know how to do so well.
By making the opening to approach you obvious, he knows you’re definitely interested — while keeping you in the sexy, feminine energy.
Step 2 – Shake Off The F.O.F. (Fortress of Females)
For a man, trying to break into a circle of female friends who are having a private conversation is a terrifying experience.
It’s tough for him, so help make it a little easier…
You gotta leave your fortress of females, for a least a few minutes. Go get a drink, or take a stroll around the bar.
In other words, give him a good shot to be able to talk to you.
Step 3 – Get in His C.O.C. (Circumference of Conversation)
Sometimes getting eye contact can be difficult. If this is the case, get into his “Circumference of Conversation.”
What this means is, go stand close enough for him to be able to talk to you. You can even open a conversation by asking him a question such as “What time is it? What’s the score of the game? Who’s going to win?”
Men LOVE to have their thoughts respected, and asking him a question he can answer works like magic.
Usually, that’s enough to strike up a conversation.
At this point, he’ll know you’re interested, and if he’s interested in you he’ll ask you out.
The most critical part of the magic feminine formula comes next…
Step 4 – Let Him Make The Move
If he doesn’t ask you out, he’s not interested. And that’s okay because he probably wasn’t the right guy for you.
But if he is interested, then chances are he will ask you out. And since you’ve set yourself up in the power feminine position, he will LOVE pursuing you.
Turn On Your Feminine Pursuit
Remember, your man is out there looking for you right now. He is closer than you think. He wants to be with you more than you know. Give him an opening…
Give him the green light.
The more you do, the faster you’ll meet the man of your dreams.
About the Author:
A true difference maker, Mat Boggs has dedicated his life to increasing love in the world one heart at a time. Mat is the creator of Cracking the Man Code: Secrets to Manifesting the Love You Want.
Mat has appeared on dozens of national media venues including: The Today Show, CNN Headline News, Fox News, CNN, Showbiz Tonight, ABC Family, The Style Network, and many others.
As a highly sought after speaker and relationship coach, Mat helps women globally to understand the hearts and minds of men, create major breakthroughs in love, and attract the relationship they want.
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