Do you feel that if you were more attractive or thinner, you’d get the partner, the attention and the life you’ve always wanted?
For years, I waged a silent battle with my body, convinced that it was the one thing that stood between me and my dream life.
My issue and everything I felt was wrong with me and the life that I lived came down to one simple word: thighs.
How it All Began…
I was on vacation with some family friends and when we all visited the beach together, their six-year-old daughter saw me in a bikini and remarked, “Your thighs look just like drumsticks!”
She was staring at my legs and seeing fried chicken. From then on, so did I.
My upbringing told me that for women, there was nothing more important than being beautiful. Like everyone else in America, I was assaulted by media images of what is beautiful (skinny and young) and what is not (fat and over 40).
And the mental assault on my body and the shame around it began. I dieted, juice fasted, exercised hours daily, and yet nothing silenced the inner critique of my body whenever I saw myself in the mirror.
Thin was never thin enough. Pretty was never pretty enough.
But the media wasn’t my only beauty influence growing up.
I am the daughter of a cosmetics legend. My father invented the first moisturizing cream in 1951. He went on to become Revlon’s most significant inventor of the 20th century, creating the first bottle mascara, the mascara brush, lip liner, eye liner, powder blush, SPF, and powder eye shadow.
But I was not the picturesque princess for the beauty king. During my teenage years (when other girls blossomed), I shrank under the intense pressure of being my father’s daughter—a man for whom there is no such thing as skinny or pretty enough.
In the decades that followed I tortured myself daily with fad diets and fantasies of plastic surgery. I saw no other way to fix what I thought was wrong with me. I spiraled into depression, hiding my body behind shapeless clothes. Sometimes I refused to go out of the house at all.
But all that changed when I met Nina.
From the moment I saw her, I thought that she was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen in my entire life. And she shifted my concept of beauty forever.
Nina was eighty-two years old, a great-grandmother, and more radiant than any young skinny model I had ever seen in my life. She rarely wore make-up. She laughed and smiled every minute.
Let me tell you, Nina got noticed. She had young lovers (yes, plural!). She drew people to her in every cafe. Friends and strangers commented on her beauty; how striking she was. And she was neither young nor thin.
She had something else. She had “The Glow.”
That was my breakthrough.
Nina showed me that the real secret to being beautiful is that beauty actually doesn’t start with your body. It’s not about the shape of your thighs or the size of your breasts or having a narrow waist. It’s not even about being young!
Your real beauty is your feminine glow. It’s what you hope you’re buying when you purchase cosmetics, beauty products, dresses, and accessories. The media promises it in every cream and shampoo!
The Real Truth About Beauty
That gorgeous, everlasting glow doesn’t start on the outside.
Not convinced? Ask a man.
After frequently exploring this discussion with the men in my life, they all unanimously confide in me how much they wish the women in their lives (wives, sisters, daughters, mothers) would stop criticizing themselves.
Ever wonder why your man didn’t notice your haircut or the new dress you bought? It’s not his fault. Even with the right dress, the right eyeliner, and the right hairstyle, you still might not have “The Glow,” which is the single most important ingredient in your beauty arsenal.
If the changes you make to your appearance don’t increase your Glow, he will never notice.
You have to stop thinking that beauty means being a different shape than you are because that mistake will kill your true beauty every time.
So this is how you become more beautiful without dieting or plastic surgery: You must cultivate “The Glow.” It might be a stretch to think this way, but stay with me for a moment.
In her book, More Than Skin Deep, leading plastic surgeon and author Loren Eskenazi states, “…women look to surgery as a magic pill or an event that will miraculously catapult them into a transformed existence, but without inner work, it simply doesn’t happen.”
How valuable would it be if you could find out how to not only make yourself more beautiful and radiant…but you also knew how to enjoy that magic feeling of knowing that you’re beautiful and having people recognize and appreciate you?
And what if the man you love couldn’t help but see your deepest heart shining through your beauty and be affected by it?
Let me tell you from experience as a professional wallflower, that if you remain your own worst critic you will keep people from seeing and feeling your true beauty.
You will sabotage your chances at creating genuine lasting attraction with the man in your life. And consequently you will not experience the depth of love that is really possible for you.
Here are 3 things you can do right now to get “The Glow”:
1. Develop a New Relationship with the Mirror.
You must conquer the inner critic once and for all! This is the only way to amplify your glow and gain that extra attention you’ve been longing for.
So start with one minute in front of the bathroom mirror and smile at your reflection. Really smile. Say hello to yourself as you would greet a friend. Acknowledge your shining smile, your twinkling eyes.
If you start criticizing, stop and go back to your smile. And for the rest of the day, at any point you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror, smile.
Dancing is the perfect way to tell that inner critic to get lost!
The goal here is to forget about what you think you look like and go into how the music makes you feel.
This will wake up your glow! So wait till no one is home, put on your favorite song, and sway your hips until you smile at the music and at the movement.
Let yourself go!
A rose, the sky, a tree, a stone, children playing.
Find something that you find beautiful and let it rub off on your spirit. Admire it until you have to smile, until your heart is full, until you are bursting with admiration and it’s shining out of your pores.
Take just one minute every day to admire something.
There are confused women out there right now paying thousands and thousands of dollars for cosmetic procedures that will not help them get the love and appreciation they are longing for.
Now you know how to never be one of them, because you know the real truth about lasting beauty…
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Among other secrets, you will learn how to turn on your sex appeal, make peace with your mirror and most importantly…
About the Author:
She holds seven yoga certifications and has written articles and a young adult novel to empower women to both discover and enhance their beauty, naturally.
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