3 Reasons Why Men Lie and How You Can Get Them to Tell the Truth

by Michael Fiore on October 10, 2012 Post A Comment

Guys and lies – it often seems like the two are inextricably linked!

Men, even the good ones, seem to be unable to stick to the truth.

Whether it’s about little things that don’t even really matter, or the important issues in your relationship that depend on an honest conversation…

You know he often hides behind anything from little white lies to whoppers of epic proportions!

Here’s the truth: men lie to the women they love and they lie often.

But why can’t they simply tell the truth?

There are 3 main reasons that men lie to the women in their lives…

Understanding each of them is the key to getting your man to open up so your relationship can be built on honesty and integrity, instead of suspicion and deceit!

The First Reason Behind His Lies

Sometimes men lie to women because they don’t think you want to hear the truth.

Have you ever asked, “Do I look fat in this?”

These sorts of questions have convinced men that there are too many potential traps in responding honestly.

Rather than navigate them, it’s easier to simply tell you what they think you want to hear.

The Second Reason Behind His Lies

Sometimes men lie to women because they think if they tell you the truth, you simply won’t like them as much.

If you ask, “What are you thinking about?” you’re likely to get a very fast response like this one: “Uh…nothing, honey.”

The Third (and Biggest) Reason Behind His Lies

But the third reason men lie to women is the one that shocks women the most…

One of the biggest reasons men lie to women is because men are terrified of women and their emotions!

It might sound weird, but emotions are actually a lot harder for guys to deal with and to recover from.

According to Dr. John Gottman of the University of Washington, women can both enter and recover from extreme emotional states a lot faster and easier than guys can.

If you think about it, it makes sense.

We’ve all seen a woman burst into tears one moment, only to be totally fine a minute or two later.

But when it comes to emotions, guys are a lot more fragile. Gottman says it’s because of evolution.

Guys were evolved to be single-taskers. They are designed to push everything out of their minds except the one thing that’s right in front of them.

In ancient times, men were the hunters and they absolutely had to concentrate on what they were doing.

Any kind of distraction or loss of focus might mean their families wouldn’t get to eat or worse…they’d end up as a wild animal’s dinner!

Because of these ancient traits, men are slow to get into an emotional state and are even slower at getting out of it!

Think of swimming. Getting emotional for women is a lot like jumping off a dock into a lake.

You get wet, sure, but the dock is right there and just a few seconds later you’re safe and dry…

But for guys, getting emotional is like getting dropped into the middle of the ocean and just barely treading water while being surrounded by sharks…

…with land nowhere in sight!

But what does this have to do with lying?

Well, everything.

From a very young age, guys learn that if they tell you the truth, you might freak out on them and flood them with scary emotions.

They’ll feel like they’re being pushed out into a shark-infested ocean.

So What’s a Girl to Do?

OK, so if guys are scared of your emotions…how do you get him to open up and share his feelings?

Well, it might not come to you naturally, but you’re going to have to learn how to talk like a native and do what guys do.

For instance, you might notice that men never, ever say something like “let’s talk” when they’re among friends. In fact, if a guy ever said something like that he’d get ragged on big time!

Instead, when a man wants to talk about something that’s bugging him, he asks someone to get together to do something specific.

For instance: “Hey man, you wanna grab a beer?”

Or “Let’s go for a drive.”

“You wanna play pool?”

So if you want to talk to a guy about his feelings (or your feelings for that matter) the best way to do it is to ‘misdirect’ him by giving him something else to focus on

And then subtly and calmly bring up the actual topic you want to talk about.

It may sound a little like you’re playing some kind of game or “Love Judo,” but I guarantee it works!

If you’re keen on discovering more easy, effective ways to get your man to open up, or you want to know more about why men lie, click on the link below to watch my video presentation.

You’ll learn how read a man’s mind and you’ll even know what he’s feeling at any given time.

You might find it a little unusual or even controversial…but it works and you’ll finally understand how guys operate!

Find out how to read him like an open book!

About the Author:

Why Men LieSince early 2010, Michael’s been teaching men and women around the world how to dramatically improve the romance, passion and connection in their relationships; no matter how “dull” things feel like they’ve become.

Michael’s “obsession” with relationships started when he was single and discovered that just by following a simple “formula” he could create incredible levels of intimacy and desire with women he was dating.

Which of your girlfriends would love to read her man’s mind and know exactly what he’s thinking and feeling?

Please share these easy and effective tips with each of them using the social media and email buttons below.

Thank you :-)

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